If you currently have more than one child, do you still remember the one major reason why you went ahead to conceive another, or do you still remember that one major reason your spouse used to convince you to go ahead with another?
If you currently have ONLY ONE child, can you recall one reason why so many, especially your parents or in-laws are trying to tell you why you should go ahead to have another. And if you have been trying to have another, what is the reason that you have braved your fear for conception, pregnancy and pain?
If I remembered correctly, that one reason was "so that Ryan being the only child then would have a little brother or sister to play and grow up with and would not be lonely." Well, at least that was the reason that so many people were telling us, the same reason my wife was using to convince me to concede defeat and the main reason why I went ahead to work on Chenya, so to speak.
Well, one thing is for sure. Ryan is definitely not lonely right now because he is kept so busy fighting with his little sister, Chenya. However, there are also so many sweet and tender moments that they shared together which reaffirms our belief that they are there for each other, or at least that is what we hope for.
Unfortunately, I have come across too many families where sibling rivalry, not when they were young but after they have grown up, has torn an entire family apart. Sisters not on speaking terms with sisters, brothers cursing brothers or sisters suing brothers. My mother's own family comes to mind where siblings can go on not talking or seeing each other for decades. I just cannot imagine the pain the parents must be going through, seeing their own children hating, fighting and hurting each other.
If that is to happen to Ryan and Chenya eventually, then I would rather have Ryan being lonely as a child, then having to endure the pain of seeing them going at each other's throats.
So, my dear son and daughter. If and when you are old enough to read and understand this, do know that our intention of having both of you together is FOR EACH OTHER, to love, to care and to be there for each other when we are no longer around. Nothing will please us more than seeing the love and bond that we see in you now, as you play together, mature and strengthen as how we have wish and pray for.
Blood is always thicker than water.
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